Maybe it’s work. You struggle with getting up for work each day because your job is beyond boring. Or is it your boss? Or even your spouse. You’re constantly worried about saying the wrong thing or you are just simply tired of feeling criticized. The emotional intimacy is disappearing and the physical intimacy is gone. Could it be a friendship that’s turned nasty, but yet you continue to take her calls, and spend your time with unnecessary drama.
To those relationships, bad jobs, bad life choices, you say, “It’s just the way it is.” Or you consider it a temporary phase of your life that will soon pass or improve. “Some day” you will make the decision to let go and move on, you keep telling yourself.
Are you afraid of the change, worried about the unknown? It is often difficult to “let go” and trust God with the most sensitive and vulnerable parts of our lives. Letting go is about deciding to stop making the same mistakes and choosing to take a different road. When we hold onto things that weigh us down, that negativity turns into baggage. The more baggage we have, the more it clouds our view and the more we feel comfortable carrying that baggage around. The more we feel like carrying that baggage around is the only way to live. Your baggage-cluttered perspective becomes the viewpoint from which you see the world around you. How can you have a positive look on life when all you see is the negative? The truth is, you can’t! Letting go isn’t easy in the beginning because holding on is our natural response. But there is so much hope! It’s lent, ladies. A perfect time for reflection, letting go, and trusting God.
In Isaiah 43: 18 – 19, God spoke to His people through the prophet Isaiah saying: “Do not remember the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing, now it shall spring forth, shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.” The people held so tightly to the past that they missed the new things God wanted to show them. God speaks the same warning and truths to us. We can’t control the past but we can focus on the miracles around us today. We can’t control the words that once shaped our hearts, but we can replace them with the truth of God’s word from scripture. We can’t control negative people, but we can choose joy for ourselves. The work of letting go will bring us rest. It will not be easy. Just as the prophet Isaiah describes new roads in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert, as we give up what we can’t control to embrace what we can change, God is carving new roads in the wilderness of our lives and new rivers in the desert of our hearts.
God’s truth to reflect on: Philippians 3: 12 – 14
“Since I have indeed been taken possession of by Christ. Brothers (Sisters), forgetting what lies behind but straining forward t o what lies ahead, I continue my pursuit towards the goal, the prize of God’s upward calling Christ.”
Write down one thing that you’ve been trying to get control of. List the things that are within your influence.
Write one way that you can give up trying to control what you cannot change to embrace what you can.